Showing posts with label The World is Small. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The World is Small. Show all posts
Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Quandary

In my GReader feeds there is one category in which I have filed two blogs, and the comments from one of those blogs.

Stop, just a minute! I have to preface this whole post by saying that I'm really really far behind in my RSS feed-reading: there are nearly 300 400-omg total unread posts there, mostly library-related (221) or potential memes-to-do-when-I-have-time (182). So I'm behind. OK.

However, in this one folder, there are just 3 feeds. Since June 29, there have been 53 posts accrue in that folder. One blog has not posted in that time, or if it has, I've read those posts (all, maybe, two of them). The other two--blog + comments--account for the rest. I'm having great difficulty gearing up to read because the main blog posts are a series based on a speech. I read part one when it was posted. [Yes, apparently there are 8 or 9 posts which total one speech--thank God I didn't have to sit through the whole thing, eh?] The other 40-something links are comments to the above posts.

I don't want to read this speech. I should, so I know what's going on in my field as a whole, but on the other hand based on the "intro" I'm not sure I should. I want to strangle the person who wrote it--a not unfamiliar feeling, to be fair--and I'm close to 100% positive that every comment will be "OH U SO WUNNAFUL!! Y DINT WE TINK UV DAT?!!!!" I'm not sure I can deal with the posts themselves, and reading the comments will depress me because it means that there are a large number of Shovers and Makers in libraries who are completely ridiculously STOOPUD! Not to mention, easily swayed by pretty words and narcissism.

On the other other hand, none of that should surprise me at this point. There are a lot of really stupid people doing management in libraries. I will probably end up reading the posts, getting pissed off, and NOT reading the comments. Unless I read 'em all, but only while drinking a bottle of Everclear (should probably make sure someone's around to keep me from posting drunk).

EDIT, 7/15: Having considered the situation from multiple angles since posting this, I've decided to "mark as read" the whole kit-and-caboodle of those 53 (now 56) posts/comments, and unsubscribe from the blog itself. Will keep receiving the comments for now, at least this week. Life's too short and complicated to worry about other people's stoopud.
Sunday, May 27, 2012

From the (Wrong) Mailbag

Because my email address is a relatively common Bible verse, I get lots of email from people I don't know. About 3 years ago I started labeling and saving some of the better, more amusing or weird, epistles and posting them here. I haven't done one of them for awhile, so why not tonight? And let's pick on Bob. I do notify people when I get personal emails that are not meant for me. Usually that ends things and I never hear from them again. But Bob? Bob's a special guy who clearly doesn't actually read his email, since I've got four emails directly from him. The first one is a LONG conversation between Bob and Lona, with Dick showing up at the end. My feeling is that if you keep CCing me after I've told you I don't know you, those emails become my property, and I can post them for the world to read.

In a message dated 10/31/2010 6:24:01 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, bob@pa...th.com writes:
Hi Lona, I’m here and safe, ready to go to bed. Got the oxygen concentrator going, did some grocery shopping…car started fine. Found my medication for the blood pressure. Sun was out so walked a few minutes on the beach. Sand is gone a couple a more feet down. weird , makes the rocks seem so big.
Pray, and I am praying often. That Gods will be clear. Trust in Him.
Get some sleep,
Bob


Bob S...
Pa...th Co
PO Box ...
Yakima, WA
[phone]
[fax]
[cell]
bob@pa...th.com

From: ...@aol.com [mailto: ...@aol.com]
Sent: Monday, November 01, 2010 12:57 PM
To: bob@pa...th.com
Subject: Re: (no subject)


I'm glad you are safe hopefully the sand going to come back.It's funny John send that to you would be spooky if you would get the same from another person I didn't got any kids last night I have a bunch of candy. I was thinking of you this morning I was made coffee what you roasted for me and I watched the caramel color foam coming out I wanted to share it with you I know how excited you are about your coffee I'm making water and drinking a lot than I'm using the ozone machine. I was able to sleep a few hours here and there I'm praying but things are very confusing the last few days I don't really understand what it's going on it's not clear what you are looking for. You just mentioned since from February you have the feelings you would not able to spend more than 2-weeks with me at times and the other hand you send an e-mail in October about you having problem I'm not able to dedicate my self completely to you I'm confused by this. I know the medical issue you have it's not easy on you on us I try to be there for you anyway I can if you let me I give you the support and try understand your needs in many ways I love you and it's never been a burden for me and I'm scared to . I don't know really want you want I can see couple of things ; one of them you are changing you mind about us about our relationship rather than exclusive you rather have it open and you would be able to be free and do things freely with out guilt; another one is about N... she is helping you and you are able to connect with her in a spiritual way and I know it's important and I know you need that and I'm grateful for that and the time you two spent together you built a motional connection also. I'm not sure because our exclusive relationship and what is our agreement put pressure on you couple of days before you left this why you come to the conclusion I should hold on with the trip - because you are not sure if that connection with N... grow stronger or not since you left so you want to find out and see where things are and leave me on the hold. I'm maybe wrong on all of this and what ever it is causing this sudden issues I hope and I pray that God show the way and clear things up to you to us and we be together and able to support each other like we did the last nine years and I hope N... continue to be not just you friend but our friend and be our support in this difficult times .


Love, Lona

In a message dated 11/2/2010 3:22:45 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, bob@pa...th.com writes:
http://www.greatdanepro.com/Pray%20For%20America/index.htm


Thank you for the letter you express yourself very well. I am really seeking God in my life and feel like I am David facing Goliath. I am thinking about retiring, wrapping up the business in December and moving down to Costa Rica and Panama. I consider my health issue priority. Having three phlebotomy in October has brought the importance of my health Straight to my face. It does seem wise at this point to download all factors that create stress or a sense of urgency in my life. I will be going to the flamingo AA meeting this afternoon, and want to hook up with Don H... for my sponsor here. I do want you to know that I have no romantic notions for N..., she is just a friend sent to help me out with my health issues. I do feel pressure from our relationship. Right now, I don't think I should feel pressure from anything for the sake of my health. I really feel like God is telling me to take a year off from all responsibilities. I will continue my financial responsibilities for you . I know this is not which you want to hear, but I cannot handle the stress of worrying about our relationship. I am going to the meeting now to work on my sobriety, sanity, and try to get my heart and my blood to calm down. I need a year to fish, golf, walk on the beach and hang out doing very little, and having no worries or responsibilities. I hope it cures my Goliath.

From: ...@aol.com [mailto: ...@aol.com]
Sent: Sunday, November 07, 2010 1:25 PM
To: bob@pa...th.com
Subject: Re: (no subject)


Hello Dear,


I understand what you are saying you don't need any pressure which is would affect you healing process and definitely I don't want to create any more for you. I'm sorry If I was unable to leave up to your expectation in our relationship and that put any pressure on you. You are a wonderful person and I pray and I have the faith that you are going to defeat your Goliath. I watched Joel today and he started the program talking about David standing just with the 5 stones in his hand against the enemy but he had the trust in God. Joel said God could turn ordinary things to extra ordinary and things are already in our rich just like David had the stones we just have to have our faith and trust in God. He also talked about Moses about as they going thru the mountains and they got to the water front of them but because he belived in God with out knowing it God already prepare him he had the stick and the miracle happened because he belived and you are one of those who belives in him and he already planned yours to just have keep trusting in him and walk with him. It's interesting you wrote the letter and telling me all this is you started it just like Joel did his program David facing Goliath. He maybe already prepared us to you and me when he brought G... and R... in our life and we saw them they leaved their own life but their love for each other was always their even they was just BFF and that was good enough to see them thru their most difficult time and they was their for each other with out any expectations. It's difficult right now for both of us but I trust in Him he will be going to be their for us I went thru difficult time in my whole life even though feel like I'm by myself against many things I know I'm not alone he is always their I just have to have the faith and let Him show the way and guide me he always shine the light on the end of the tunnel.
After all this said I hope you are doing good and had a great experience at the convention and keep that positive thinking going.


Thinking of you, [pretty avatar of a flower]


In a message dated 11/8/2010 7:13:51 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, bob@pa...th.com writes:
Hi Dear,
thank you for taking the pressure off of me. I feel so much pressure on me from so many things, that I know so much of it is just a condition of my mind. I am praying a lot and trying to figure out how to handle this feeling of being in danger of losing my life. I met with John M... today and we hung out in his pool for a couple of hours. I talked to him about my life and my thinking that I should retire or move here. But the Phils so many emotions that are making me feel responsible to be back there in the USA. He really encouraged me to just move here and forget about the USA. He said my mind or my intelligence is telling me what to do, but my emotions are saying but this and but that, etc. he said on my gravestone they will not print that BobS... was very responsible. He strongly advises me to that worry about anything. He's going to get me in touch with a good doctor that comes to Liberia a couple of days a week. I'm thinking I better get my blood tested in a week or two since I had to have 3 phlebotomy is last month. I did not talk to John at all about us. Were planning on going golfing Wednesday.
Tomorrow I meet with Don H... who is going to be my sponsor here. We are going to meet from one o'clock until five o'clock, the flamingo meeting starts at 5:30 PM. They delayed the convention two days in a row because of roads and bridges washed out. So we didn't go. Most people didn't has it rained a whole bunch last week. Turns out they only had the convention for 1 1/2 days, about 40 people showed up.
Thank you for being levelheaded and taking a spiritual approach to what I am doing. I don't want you to think that it's anything you've done, because I'm certain it's just a problem within me and I don't know what it is . I just know that I do need to figure it out and I need whatever time it takes to figure out what's going on with me. I am very flaky and uncomfortable in my own skin right now. Even answering business e-mails gets me stressed easily. It seems like I've come to the end of my rope as far as being able handle any kind of stress. It is probably fear. I am really not ready to be dead or disabled. I even wonder about the stress of wrapping everything up in December. John says just stay here in Costa Rica and wrap everything up from here. it's day number eight here in Costa Rica for me and I'm just now feeling like I might get relaxed . I'm a little nervous because Dr. W... and still doesn't have the Spain shot, and I'm off all medication and hormones right now. The BP pressure runs about 140/85. I heart beats up about 15 beats a minute, but that's probably because I stopped taking the Toporol. Well enough of that kind of stuff. I just keep praying and reading meditation stuff and I brought my Bible, so I think a better read some of that stuff right now I've got myself all worried again. I think of you every day and I pray for you in the morning and during the day and at night.

From: ...@aol.com [mailto: ...@aol.com]
Sent: Tuesday, November 09, 2010 11:13 AM
To: bob@pa...th.com
Subject: Re: (no subject)


Hello Dear,


It's too bad the convention was canceled I know you was looking forward to it.
Seem like lot's of things going thru you mind you know you having this medical issues but you are having good doctors and they monitoring you all the time you are taking good care of you self I don't think you should worried that much it's could create more harm for you than good. I think you need to relax you are creating lots of stress on your self maybe you just need to take one day at the time and you need to make choices for yourself what ever it is benefit your needs and you have to know you can leave with that decision. It's is easy to people tell you their opinion but right know you are very motional very vulnerable state and what ever they say it's make a lots of since to you right now but you have to ask your self that what really you want to do? - give some time for yourself and you will find the answers. I don't know what ever it's with you since early summer I noticed you talk to me about things but you never want to hear my opinion or if I said anything you always took it in the negative way and this behave of yours doesn't make since to me because all this years we was always able to talk about anything and we seemed like always find the answer together we balanced each other out to find the right solution. Right know seems you are looking for that support to anyone to anywhere from people who knows you is a casual friend and leave me on the side line and it's ok for me I'm a good lessoner and I'm not trying to find the answers for things any more why this happened or what behind all this which caused all this. I'm not going to hang on the thread by you about my trip any longer I decided I'm going and you can pick me up or please make arrangement with the shuttle I'm arriving Saturday at 2-clock. I'm planning to stay is planned or maybe coming back sooner. I do not want you to worry about this you do your things what ever it is I'm not going to ask questions about your doings if you want to share them it's up to you. I'm planing to do my things just hang out and lay on the beach long walks and relax . I hope you had a good connection today with Don and have fun with John tomorrow play well and tell hi for me.
I belive everything is going to be work out ok with you I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
[same avatar as above]


On Tue, Nov 9, 2010 at 7:28 PM, BobS... bob@pa...th.com wrote:
Hi Dick,
Just got home from a meeting and dinner…to get this. I can't believe it Lona says she's coming down anyway!
I really don't want her here I'm just now starting to relax. Tell me what you think, Bob


BobS... bob@pa...th.com
11/12/10
 to me
Hi Dick, She is flying in Sunday! May I call you tonight or sat night to discuss?


From: Richard W... [mailto:sacred...@gmail.com]
Sent: Tuesday, November 09, 2010 9:28 PM
To: BobS...
Subject: Re: (no subject)

Hi Bob: Thanks for the email. I understand Lona's letters and her feelings. She loves you. You guys have been together a long time and it's my hunch that she knows you pretty well. I sense a real caring for you in her letters. I sense real love. Love is a good thing. Its good medicine. I think her encouragement to you to get back to living one day at a time is very good...thats what you need, and her suggestion to start getting positive is right on.

Breathe in positive thoughts. Exhale all negative ones. Breathe in positive energy. Let go of negative. Forget the past. Live in the here and now 5 min at a time. Be happy. Let yourself be happy. Something inside of you is trying to kill you. As we know, fighting is not the answer. Surrender is. Try meditating on surrender...a lot. See what yu begin to think about and feel. Surrender. Give up....Let God work a miracle in your life one more time.......Breathe in Love let go of fear. Breathe in love...let go of fear.....Love is all around you.....Let it in. Let people love you until you can love yourself again..........

I don't know what you should do Bob. I just believe you need to get honest with yourself. Really honest. Surrender. Surrender your will to HIS. SEEEK HIM, and what HE wants. Meditate on the truth. What is the truth? You've been lying a long time,its probably become a habit....but its okay no judgement...the past is over...begin a new life today Bob...and live it one day at a time.

I believe God will tell you what to do in regards to Lana. Try being quiet and talk to God. And Mostly LISTEN to him.

After a period of meditation and prayer , just close your eyes and open your Bible and see what the word of God has to say to you. His will is also in the Bible. He can give you many answers there........Remember one thing. Lonna loves you. And love does not harm, but seeks goodness.......

Good luck. SSSSSSShhhhhhhh quiet your mind and listen to Him...He's inside of you.........Listen to Love Listen to the man inside you,,,,,the real Bob S... ....find him and consult him.....

I love you Bob. I will be praying for you this week and call me any time after 4.

Dick


Auto-reply from bob@pa...th.com bob@pa...th.com via mt....charter.net
11/9/10
 to me
I am currently out of the area, though I am receiving e-mails. However, it may take me a couple days to reply. For assistance during my absence please contact Brad ... at [phone], Justin ... at [phone] or Justin ... at [phone]. You may also contact Mar... C... in my office [phone] Monday thru Thursday 9:00 - 3:00.

Thanks,
Bob



Yeah, our Bob, he's a peach, isn't he?

Stay tuned.
Saturday, June 18, 2011

What a difference six years makes

Tomorrow is the beginning of our last youth group mission trip. Looking back six years to when we first started as youth group leaders, what I remember most is feeling totally panicked over this part of the job. The people who were in charge before us left us a little bit high-and-dry; there was nothing we could go on with anything--they even refused to give us the remaining checks for the bank account so forget asking them for help in finding a site for mission work!

We muddled through. And Katrina happened about two weeks before our first meeting in the fall of 2004, which led to an easy decision about where we were going. The major problem was WHERE and how to hook up with people who needed assistance. So God stepped in and sent other church members to the Gulf Coast to scope out a site. We ended up taking two high schoolers that year, but making it a combined mission experience with about 10 adults and 4 younger kids, not all of whom were members of our church. It was complicated. And frustrating. And absolutely amazing. It made me into a mission-junkie. Beast, too.

The following year we were on our own and I discovered that there are organizations 'out there' that coordinate trips for harried youth group leaders. In the end we blindly picked (were pushed into by God, really) an organization called Youthworks which has 50-60 sites around the continent that they staff and plan for every year. The sites range from rural to urban, and provide places for everyone ages 12 to 18 to serve. Since that year, they have expanded to multi-generational sites where whole families and church groups of all ages can attend. I so much want to do one of those! But I'm getting ahead of myself.

In June of 2007 we took Sparky and three high school girls to Minneapolis for a week. That's the short version. The longer version is that I spent most of the first six months of that year in a state of panic over the paperwork that needed to be filled out, the money that had to be collected. I must have sent out at least six letters to the group and their parents about the trip over the course of the year. I worried constantly that we were going to have any number of problems or issues or scary events. Instead it turned out to be life-changing in all the good ways. The girls accepted Sparky unquestioningly (he was a year younger than them, not yet in high school), the college-age leaders were astounding in their faith and work ethic and joy, the work sites were indescribably rich in teachable moments, the church in which we 'lived' was spacious and had a pop machine (!)...and we got to go to Mall of America as a treat for our group at the end of the week. All that was great, but the most important, awe-inspiring thing was watching all of us explode in the growth of our faith and understanding of our purpose here. All my worries, all the panic, all the concerns about safety and planning and potential homesickness...all for naught.

The only downside of that trip was the fact that it was a combined middle school and high school trip. We are not cut out for dealing with 13-year-olds. We have specified high-school only trips from that year on.

In 2008, we took a larger group (about 10, I think) to the city where Beast and I lived for 6 years, and where Sparky was born. It was easier in many ways, not the least of which was knowing our way around town. The church was outstanding, the work was rewarding, the leaders were good.

In 2009, it was time to step away from urban sites. The kids elected to go to an an Ojibway reservation. We stayed at a school instead of a church, it was much cooler the week we were there, and the leaders--both those from Youthworks and those from the other church groups there that week--were absolutely unbelievably great. The pace was much slower, there were fewer 'a-ha' moments for the kids, but I think eyes were opened, perhaps more slowly and over a longer period of time afterwards, just as much as in their (our) service in the cities we'd been in.

Last year we went to our denomination's youth conference. It was a different experience from working all week, but we were every bit as sweaty and dirty and uncomfortable and tired as we were on mission trips, and there was every bit as much Spirit there in somewhat more obvious ways. It was a blast. In some respects last summer was a harder year because it required more internal 'work,' more honesty, more in-your-face challenges. For me, at least. I was wrecked at the end of the week.

For our final trip, we are headed east for the first time. We are back in a city. And the place we're staying sounds like the Hilton: beds (OMG--no air mattresses! Just sleeping bags), air conditioning, on-site showers!! And, where the first year I was staging the packing easily a week before we left, this year I haven't actually started packing. I don't even have clothes to take: I need to hit the store today for jeans and capris. In short, I'm probably the most under-prepared I've ever been for anything. And I'm ok with that; whatever is going to happen will happen regardless of the contingencies I've planned for.

We're taking Ruka to the rat-sitter this morning, then stopping at an ATM and Farm & Fleet for money and clothes, and then it's hope to start throwing shit into bags. I need to send a Facebook reminder about timing for tomorrow, and then I'm calling it done. Bring it on, God!! I'm ready for our swan song!
Monday, May 2, 2011

Bin Laden is dead

...long live the war.

I'm worried about Beast as he travels across country today. And I'm worried about Ham doing his TSA work today and for the next few weeks.

And I do not like the fact that the crowds cheering last night bore a horrible resemblance to the crowds cheering outside the U.S. Embassy in Iran 30+ years ago.

As a wise friend of mine said on Facebook last night, "justice won't heal the broken hearted, how can't we see that?"

And then there's this:
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were; any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
--John Donne
Thursday, April 28, 2011

Things I should mention

  • Ellen and Spence are married. W00t. More on that later, I promise.
  • In spite of walking miles every day for at least 10 of the days we were gone, I gained weight. This does not come as a big surprise since I felt like I ate all day every day. Oh well.
  • Either my eyes have gotten very bad, or Blogger (in draft) shrinky-dinked their template page font. Everything is minuscule now.
  • I love my Nook. I may have mentioned that, but it's still true. It's not the same as reading a book-book, but that doesn't make it bad by any means. Some books won't work right in it, and sometimes you just need to hold a book, but the content of the book in a Nook is the same. Maybe better, since I can adjust the print size and leave myself notes without needing a pen to hand all the time.
  • Between the Nook and the Flip, we got lots of attention from technophiles overseas. And we took illegal video. Maybe I'll post some. :-)
  • Speaking of the Flip: WHAT THE HELL, Cisco?? Really? What.the.hell.
  • Karma bites hard. I did a somewhat-bad thing, and had the same thing happen to me in return. On the same trip.
  • Sparky ended up at the hospital, briefly (for a chest X-ray), while we were gone. FIL, however, had no problems whatsoever. Of course, we had prepared for the precise opposite, and didn't even leave Sparky's insurance info with either of them. Sparky's fine, just had a bad chest cold that caused him to have trouble breathing in gym class one day, and to miss one other day of school.
  • Speaking of my brilliant son who has 5 AP classes under his belt...he missed the deadline for signing up to take the AP tests for those classes. I have, so far, restrained myself from punching him in the head.
  • So yeah, the week before we left on vacation, I had a kidney stone problem. The follow-up visit to the doctor resulted in the news that I should probably try to drink more than 2 liters of water (liquids in general) per day. Two liters. That's a LOT of peeing! 
  • No, I did not follow those directions in Europe. Give me a break.
  • I am tired of saying, "No, not that wedding." But I will probably watch some of that wedding.
  • "Gelato!" and "Room 4-4-6" will always remind me of Florence.
  • It was warmer in England the days we were there than it was in Italy. That, my friends, is weird. I about died of heat prostration at the wedding reception.
  • With the exception of tram, I think we road on every available sort of transportation available in the past week. Well, not city-bus-route buses or bicycles, either. Planes, trains, automobiles, taxis, coaches, subways...and then there is walking, too.
  • I will upload pictures tonight. Unless I end up needing to iron, in which case, I will upload pictures...this weekend.
  • Had my annual review yesterday. She likes me. I'm one of those who actually gets a (pathetic) raise this year. Have bitten off far more than I'll be able to chew for the upcoming year. Ugh.
  • My brand-new (to me) car is back at Carmax having its CD player replaced. For free. I had to drive the hour to S-burg yesterday and leave it there. I'm currently driving a red car with a spoiler and a sunroof. Sport-tay! Too bad it's rain-rain-rain all the time and I probably won't get to use the sunroof. I have to go back and get my real car over the weekend.
  • Before we left town, our washing machine had started making thumping and jet-taking-off sounds. We knew we'd have to have a new one--repairing the old one would have cost the same as buying new. By the time we got home, the spin-cycle wasn't removing any water from clothes, so Beast took our dirty vacation clothes to a laundromat Tuesday once he established that it took three drying cycles to get sheets to moist. 
  • Consequently, last night we hit Best Buy for a new washer and brought home the floor model which is now in our basement. If you want pictures, it's more-or-less this one.
  • Being a grown-up is really BOR-ING sometimes!
  • In case anyone is going to England, "The Slug and Lettuce," while a catchy/cutesy name for a pub, is only a cover for being a Ruby Tuesday. Yes. We got suckered into that one. Still, astoundingly tasty nachos...for England.
  • OK, so work. I need to go. More prose, less of the bullet-style ... eventually.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Vacation Anticipation

From as far back as I can remember, my primary reaction to news that we're going on vacation has been WILD EXCITEMENT. I capitalize that because there is nothing small about the way I react to the news or the the thought of traveling. I really do love hitting the road, or the skies, and seeing something that I don't see every day.

When I was a kid, this was 95% pure joy. The only negatives to travel for me were carsickness and not always enjoying the trip as much as the arrival and the new things to do. We drove LOTS of miles for vacations, sometimes (often) through monotonous landscape on two-lane roads in cars that my dad picked out for his comfort and/or practical use, and he rarely stopped for any reason. Flying places was much more fun--motion sickness didn't bother on planes and there was the whole fun and bustle of the airport on either side of the trip.

Now that I'm grownup, I still get VERY EXCITED, but every trip I take has an added edge of anxiety. Sometimes, that builds to the point of complete and utter panic. I'm about, oh, 10 deep breaths away from panic right now. I remember one vacation we went on about 13 years ago--no idea where we were going, that time--where I fully broke down in sobs in the living room of our prior house the morning we were due to leave. Why? Because I wasn't going to get the house cleaned up. Beast was confused about the whole scenario, and realistically, the house was ONLY going to get dusty again while we were gone, so why did it have to be spotless when we left?

I don't know.

I still don't know.

Except my mom always did the same thing, and you have to admit that the last thing you want to see when you walk into your home after two weeks away is dirty dishes, laundry piled everywhere, and no sheets on the bed. Right?

This trip has a lot of other stressors beyond the usual travel hassles--yeah, airports? Not at all fun anymore, although at least we get to be in the Red Carpet Club today for our wait--and the obsession I tend to have about getting from place to place once we land, etc. For one thing, the last time I flew overseas was last August for my sister's funeral, which was too quick of a trip to get overly obsessed about anything, but which has left a certain bizarre dead feeling about the airport experience; by 'dead' I mean I don't remember much about the airports OR flight, like I totally zombied out.

Another stress is that this is the first trip we've taken that has left Sparky behind at home. He has left us behind twice as he has traveled overseas, but for some reason I'm wigging out much more than I did on those trips. He won't be alone, which would have been fine from the taking care of himself standpoint, but now that we're on the verge of leaving, I know I'd have been DefCon5 for at least a week now about it. I cried when he left for school this morning. I'm tearing up like mad now. I expect I will cry when we leave for the airport, AND when we liftoff later this afternoon.

More stress is that we will not reach our final stop at the hotel till about this time tomorrow. We have a 6-hour layover in London--not worrying about that--and we will be T I R E D when we finally land in Rome and then have to go through customs, again, and find our suitcase and then a cab. I worry because I picked the hotels in Rome and Florence, and what if they suck?

Once we're there, I know I'll be fine. Hell, once we're over the Atlantic I'll be fine, back to excited-only.

So. That's where I am.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Contact juggling

WAY cool:
Sunday, June 6, 2010

66 years

Do you know where your father, or grandfather, was 66 years ago today?

My dad was in Lake Charles, LA, because he had been declared medically unfit to fly. Which means that he survived the War. I realized during high school history class that had he not lost his hearing, he probably would have been flying missions over Europe, and would have been unlikely to have lived. And four of the kids in my family wouldn't have ever been.

So, thanks for the genetics that caused his ears to be weak, and thanks for the idiot pilot who blew out Dad's eardrums on a training mission in '42.

And thanks, Dad, for building and maintaining the bomb sights for the planes so that we could win the War.
Saturday, April 17, 2010

Gambling...

At 4 this afternoon, I was leaving work, Beast was on his way to Biggish City to the West with two of the current three teens in our house to play Laser Tag, and we had a rather boring evening ahead (after a pretty boring rest-of-the-day).

Right now there are 18 people in my house, 16 of whom are under 18. Two large pizzas have disappeared, and their are large chunks missing from the other four still on the kitchen counters.

We could open a shoe store in our entryway.

One of the German girls has a MAJOR crush on one of the host boys, and isn't being particularly subtle about it. Then again, they are only scheduled to be in the States for about 56 more hours, so needs must.

Eight teens are in the basement playing pool, and eight are in the dining room playing poker. [Poker rules explained in Germlish are pretty amazing, by the way. Lots of "funf."]

My Presbyterian forebears are whizzing around in their graves, but I'm having a blast just watching.

Iceland's volcano

All bets are off this upcoming week as far as what's going to happen. According to the USAirways site:

Cities Affected

Brussels, Belgium ; Paris, France (Charles de Gaulle) ; Frankfurt, Germany ; Munich, Germany ; Amsterdam, Netherlands ; Zurich, Switzerland

Date Range

4/15/2010 12:30 PM ET through 4/20/2010 11:30 PM ET

Revised Ticket Policy

US Airways has relaxed ticketing policies for the impacted cities listed above. US Airways will allow one itinerary change without penalty for customers with travel to, from or through the cities listed above during the specified date range. See our revised ticketing policy below for rules and restrictions. Call 800-428-4322 for more information.

  • US Airways will waive the advance purchase and standard change fee.
  • You can move your entire itinerary up to fourteen days before or after the scheduled origination date (subject to original booking class availability).
  • You can apply the full value of your wholly unused tickets toward the purchase of a ticket to an alternate destination, although travel must originate within seven days of the scheduled origination date. Changes to origin and destination may result in an increase in fare. Any difference in fare between your new ticket and the original ticket will be collected at the time of booking.
The German students are scheduled to go home on Tuesday.

Which would be April 20. Who knows, though: they may still be here next weekend. Or they may actually get on their flight to PA and then get stranded there for who-knows-how-long.

Let's recap:
  • July 1996--Days before we are scheduled to fly home from England, TWA 800 crashes off Long Island. While our flight home was not cancelled, airport security was freakin' bizarre. The flight wasn't exactly relaxing either, on top of traveling with a 3-year-old boy.
  • September 2001--My niece Rosellen and her boyfriend-at-the-time are midway into their flight from Birmingham to Chicago when all hell breaks loose on the East Coast of the U.S. They end up rerouted to Amsterdam and thence home. I doubt Boyfriend has ever boarded another airplane; that was his first flight ever, and the first time he had left the country.
  • July 2005--Sparky is on a People to People trip with about twenty other 11-and 12-year-olds. Beast is in the hospital with fucked-up discs in his back. MIL calls at 7 a.m. as I'm racing out the door to see Beast to ask me precisely where Sparky is right now, and when I tell her "Paris...no, on his way from London across the Channel on a ferry," she sighs gratefully...and tells me not to watch the news. Right.
I've omitted all the other rather shocking things that have happened in the world while we were on vacation, but a short list should suffice: Jeffrey Dahmer's arrest, the shooting at the Capitol, Princess Di's death.

Point being, I guess, is that stuff happens and we have learned over the years to roll with all the possibilities of Things That Can Happen To Screw Up Your Travel Plans.
Friday, January 22, 2010

Hi

I was in Vegas for about 51 hours over the weekend with Beast, Sparky, and Sparky's friend Camo. We had fun. Lots of fun. We pretty much ate non-stop, too. And I drank too much one night--free drinks!

Tuesday Beast was sick in bed all day, still in Vegas. Boo!

He's home now. This week was nuts. So was last week (see previous entry for details). I'm tired.

Seems like everyone at work is cranky.

Tonight is the Help for Haiti concert. Sparky's at work--did I mention he has a job?--and we're waiting to hear on another possible job for him as well. Short version: he's never home.

Neither is Beast.

Frankly, I'm not home as much as I'd like to be, either. Good thing we have a guard cavy.

P.S. We also have no food in the house. Cuz there's no time to shop. Yeah. Joy.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Requiescat Mr. Jimmy

This post was originally published 6/15/06 elsewhere. We received news this week that Mr. Jimmy Lepre passed away last Saturday after a decline over the last few months, but not without inspiring many of us who met him with his strength of character and loving spirit. Jimmy, I know you are with your beloved again. Bless you both.
On Thursday morning, after our orientation (interrupted by 5 or 6 cell phone calls), Ed began dividing us into work teams and assigning us jobs. Our group of about 10 was--I think--supposed to head to someone's house to do drywall. Ed received yet another call, this one from an elderly man who has needed help assessing what was next in recovering his house.

This gentleman is an active, fit former-fireman. Coming just six months after the death of his wife, Katrina wiped him out emotionally. He has a tidy little nest inside his FEMA trailer, and his house has been mucked out (twice: he paid for the job once, and then called Ed for help when the $3,000 he spent got him a half-assed, unfinished job which Ed's volunteers full-ass finished). The roof was replaced (I think he paid for that and again had to have volunteers finish the job properly). Then he apparently just ... shut down.

One of the things the D'Iberville Volunteer Foundation and Presbyterian Disaster Assistance have done is continue to assess each and every resident. They stay in touch and check in with them by phone and by visits regularly, though they do not force residents to begin or do any work until the individual is ready, assuming their health is not in danger. So they knew that James needed more work done, and they had talked to him about it, but he just wasn't ready. At 84, he wasn't sure it was worth it to him.

He called Ed Thursday morning as we were getting our assignments. In spite of being assigned to drywall someone else's house, Ed switched half our group over to go assess the electrical needs and get started on drywalling James's house. We pulled up across the street from a nice 60's-era brick ranch house which looked--from the outside--clean if a bit careworn. As we exited the van, looking a bit like a circus clown act, we realized we were parked in what used to be someone's living room; all that is left is chunks of concrete slab and a gravel driveway.

On that cheery note...we proceeded across the street into the garage. The inside of the house had been taken down the the stud walls. There were pipes and wires protruding from the ceiling and walls, and there was wrecked linoleum on the floor of what used to be the kitchen and dining room. The rest of the house had bare concrete floors. No insulation anywhere. Windows and screens in need of replacing, standing open like the front door: a lovely old solid wood door too water swollen to close completely. The front yard had a few dead tree limbs and a lot of weeds, the wrought-iron on the porch rusty under the white paint. Not horrible, but definitely not livable. The bathrooms had all their fixtures intact, including the tile on the floor (which, now that I think of it, will probably have to be removed).

Our team that first day consisted of the following people:
Beast, Sparky, me
two youth members: TS and JY
AD, a church member who used to be a youth group leader
another couple from church: MS and LS
a woman who teaches with one of our members: SB, and her two teenaged sons, AB and JB
another teacher, KM, and her family: RM Sr., RM Jr., and SM
Beast, MS, AD and me got started assessing the electrical layout. It was a mess--they ended up replacing everything except the circuit box, and rewiring the whole house. I was assigned a notebook and pencil and followed MS around making a shopping list.

RM and several others began measuring for drywall and insulation. The other women started talking to the homeowner, who insisted that everyone calls him "Mr. Jimmy." Oy. He was very clearly depressed, bent over under the stress of decision-making and despair. Still, he was lucid and able to answer all the questions about wiring and so forth that were put to him, and gradually began to join in the free-for-all. He mentioned that the linoleum in the kitchen would have to come up eventually so that some other floor could be laid. People started scraping it up in the loose spots with spade and some other tools.

Shopping list completed, we headed back to Volunteer Village to get better floor-scraping tools, and then to Lowe's for our first shopping expedition. Mr. Jimmy came to VV and insisted on taking the scrapers back for us, tossing them into his jeep. That was my first hint that as depressed as he was, he is still physically strong.

Long story short: by Saturday, we had his linoleum floor up, including the sticky backing which had to be removed with solvent, there was insulation in most of the walls, and the guys had sweat about 5 gallons each while climbing in the attic.

In the process, several of us had a chance to spend time chatting with Mr. Jimmy. He is a born storyteller, he loves girls, and he is an absolutely charming man. He told us about his wife, and her love of gardening; their house was a showcase, he said, and people used to drive past and take pictures of all the blooms.

So, the women decided to take the money raised by the children in the elementary school where they teach and fix up his front garden: new (easy-care) plants, pulling weeds, paint on the wrought iron on the porch, a soaker hose so he doesn't have to drag the hose around the house.... The dead branches and tree debris was stacked by the street for removal, weeds were shot with Roundup, and the gardens were mulched.

We worked at Mr. Jimmy's Thursday, Friday and Saturday straight through. The rest of the group was doing other jobs: painting one house and drywalling another one, and I did some of the drywalling on Monday, too, in a house just down the block from Mr. Jimmy's. On Saturday after we'd cleaned up the work area for the day, and after to some urging from his new girlfriends, Mr. Jimmy sat down in the garage with all of us gathered around and performed five songs on his guitar. There was not a dry eye in the house. He eventually agreed to come to our camp and do a concert for all of the volunteers on Monday night. It was the loveliest concert I will probably ever attend. There was not a dry eye in the vicinity, and a few audience members were singing along quietly with him.

On Saturday, his daughter and son-in-law, and grandson and great-grandkids arrived for what seems to be their weekly visit. [They live near Mobile.] They had some work to do for him on the house (long story), and they mowed his yard. The little kids (ages 5 and 9) were agog with all the work being done in the attic, and my job that day was to keep them out from underfoot so they didn't get boxes, wires, plugs, tools, etc. dropped on their heads. They are pistols, those two. Mr. Jimmy was grateful for our presence again, for giving them something to do: "They get bored here. There's nothing for them to do," he said.

Both after the concert and before we left his house Tuesday for the last time (electrical completely redone, inspection passed!), Mr. Jimmy told us that we obviously love to work, that he couldn't believe how hard we ALL worked, and that he felt that he might be able to move into the house before the end of the summer. I don't know: he's got HVAC, drywall, flooring, fixtures and plumbing to deal with next. BUT!!!! He was standing upright, smiling, gesturing--a totally new man ready to face life again. I will undoubtedly never seen James Lepre again, but the light of his lifetime of stories and the sound of his voice singing "Bill Bailey" will stay with me forever.

Yes, we helped this man, and some others. But what we got in return is just as valuable, if somewhat amorphous. I feel like I've regained my sense of purpose, reminded myself of strength I didn't know I had, seen the horror of what nature can do to us and been properly reminded of humankind's place in the world, killed some of the stereotypes I've had about Southerners, crossed off a few more states in the list of those I've traveled in/through, and survived another 'camping' trip. I wish I'd been able to eat a beignet (my stomach was not willing to face one), and I wish I could have stayed in D'Iberville longer. I wish these people didn't have to go through this horrible time, and I wish I could understand why someone would want to rebuild a beach house on the site of the one that washed out to sea last year.

Mostly, I can't wait to do this again sometime, somewhere. But only if Irene McIntosh is in charge of the meals!
Thursday, December 3, 2009

Double-booked

Today was all about Sparky. He field-tripped to the Giant City to the East to shop for Christmas presents at the Christkindlmarkt. He loves that--the idea is to use their German (hence class credit for shopping), and he really liked getting up later than usual (which he didn't, but that's normal). Then tonight we had two school-related meetings. We ended up splitting up and I attended the one about the ACT testing that is upcoming while the boys attended the one about the German exchange program next spring and summer.

His ACT pre-test composite is 28. The trip will cost $1850, and we are expected to host a German student for three weeks next spring in exchange for Sparky having a place to stay the following month.

So, there ya go: life starts heating up again. Whee.

In the short term, I have GOT to get the Christmas tree up one of these days. And cards...oy. Cards. sigh
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